1. Section 1.3.1 of AASHTO's Guide Specifications for Design of Pedestrian Bridges, 1997, states the following regarding the deflections:-
"Members should be designed so that the deflection due to the service pedestrian live load does not exceed 1/500 of the length of the span.
The deflection of cantilever arms due to service pedestrian live load should be limited to 1/300 of the cantilever arm.
The horizontal deflection due to lateral wind load shall not exceed 1/500 of the length of the span."
On the other hand, Section 5 of AASHTO's LRFD Guide Specifications for Design of Pedestrian Bridges, 2009, describes the following regarding the deflections:-
"Deflections should be investigated at the service limit state using load combination Service I in Table 3.4.1-1 of AASHTO LRFD. For spans other than cantilever arms, the deflection of the bridge due to the unfactored pedestrian live loading shall not exceed 1/360 of the span length. Deflection in cantilever arms due to the pedestrian live loading shall not exceed 1/220 of the cantilever length. Horizontal deflections under unfactored wind loading shall not exceed 1/360 of the span length."
2. AFAIK ETABS 2016 can design steel connections. However, SAP2000 does not have this option.
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